Finding a therapist can feel like a lot of pressure, as if you have to choose correctly the first time. You don’t. It’s normal to try someone for a few sessions and then decide.

In those first sessions, notice how you feel in the room. Do you feel listened to rather than rushed? Can you say “that didn’t fit” without bracing for the reaction? Does the therapist explain how they work in words that make sense to you?

Feeling uncomfortable isn’t always a bad sign. Therapy can stir things up. The difference is whether the discomfort feels like useful work or like not being understood.

It’s fine to ask practical questions too: how often you’ll meet, what happens between sessions, how you’ll know it’s helping. A good therapist welcomes them.

If it doesn’t feel right after three or four sessions, say so. We would much rather help you find a better match, inside our practice or outside it, than have you quietly stop coming.